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It Begins with YOU.

 

And here I am, like many others, writing a blog post regarding happiness abroad. But it happens. You feel it. Happiness starts with a healthy kind mindset; it truly is something that is cultivated every day. It doesn’t just show up. We can’t buy it at the shop. And definitely won’t feel it if  we keep looking at the hardships in life.

A few titles I have seen on my social media:

“I truly felt happiness after _____. ”

“After travelling for _ years I found myself. ”

“I FREAKING AM HAPPY BLOG POST SUCH AND SUCH” Hehe.

When you are put in a place where everything is new and unknown it really starts to shake you at the core. It really wakes a person up.

So, why do people claim to find happiness abroad? Perhaps this happens because we don’t have the day to day stresses of our regular life back home. When we are travelling its all about travelling and being present. Nothing more. Or, maybe we have a realization how numb we have been in our life back home. I have created a list of the top 5 lessons I have learnt that brought me more happiness and gratitude today.

 

5 Lessons I Learnt Abroad:

  1. LIGHT AND DARK COME TOGETHER
    When I travel to a place (outside a resort) I really feel both sides of everything. And I am not talking a gentle feeling of it. It will usually bubble up all at once together. Intertwined. I begin to see the ego (resistance) and spirit (unconditional love). In other words I recognized my strengths and areas of myself that may need a little more attention. But with every decision, every thought, every moment there is a choice. Even in the darkest moments there is light.
  2. WEAR MY SOUL
    Its not about the clothes I wear. Its not about what hair product I use. It is not about what backpack I have. Its about my soul. Its about my smile. It is about how welcoming I am. I remember the first trip I made when I was fresh out of high school and grew up in a small town. I was so used to everyone knowing me and I had a close group of friends that I could lean on. Well…. I hopped on a plane to jump abroad where no one knew me. Relationships take time to grow. But if I kept a closed door when travelling there is no room for someone to get to know me or grow a relationship. I was quiet the first trip because I didn’t want to be judged and I didn’t know how to really begin a friendship. I was shy yet I felt like I could be anyone. I started to break down the walls I had built when I was teen and became very vulnerable.Friend, if you are about to take your first trip abroad wear your soul. BE YOU. Let your light shine and your globe tribe will come. You will met so many more people than you would if you kept to yourself. One awesome way is to sit at community tables and introduce yourself to everyone! Two ways I introduce myself or ‘break the ice’ is: asking them how they are (truly) doing or I find something I love about them and express it. Be curious like you were as a kid. And be yourself. Don’t be shy- the universe will always and forever support you. 
  3. BALANCE
    It is easy to get lost on one side of the spectrum. I love being quiet and meditative and I also love to be wild and untamed. This is part of the beauty in having a human experience. We are able to experience both sides but don’t get lost friend. It can be exhausting living on one side of the spectrum for too long and you can also miss out on something profound waiting on the other side. Keep yourself in rhythm of how you feel day to day. Find the balance of inwardness and outwardness. Find the balance that makes you thrive. It may take awhile to shed back what is needed to live in divine flow- but it can happen. It will happen and will be the most rewarding.
  4. IMPERMANENCE
    Nothing is permanent. Period. Stop trying to figure it out. Stop trying to control the outcome. Stop obsessing over material objects. It all doesn’t matter. Our life isn’t even permanent so go outside and get your feet dirty. Eat too much chocolate. Laugh so hard until your belly hurts. Go next door and offer your neighbour some tea- heck even a beer. Get connected.Your house will be fine one more day if you don’t clean it. It really is okay. Go enjoy your day and stop stressing over all of these ‘tasks’ you need to finish. Your experience, today, is the most important.
  5. SHARE MY VOICE
    My thoughts, opinions, and wisdom matters. It is time for us all as a collective to RISE THE F UP. There has been too many years where I kept quiet for so many reasons. This was a whole new area for me even though many people know I love to talk. Having conversations and teaching is my jam. But for so long, after a lot of childhood teasing, I became more and more quiet. Stuffing everything down so far that is caused more harm than good.Speak up love. Share the beautiful words that roll off your tongue. Share your personal journey to your journal, your friends, your community, online, and anywhere your heart desires. Of course with a loving intention that does not harm others or self.A great practice I have started to incorporate into my daily drive is singing. I am not a singer by no means. I have never taken classes and was so shy even though I remember we had a girl singing group in elementary school. Yes, we would sing at recess hehehe. It feels so damn good to sing our hearts out whether alone in your car or publically. There are over 80 meridians on the top of our tongue that are connected to your glandular system. They are stimulated when you use your voice. How healing is that!

The five lessons above have been the most educational moments in my life that have cultivated more happiness. There truly are so many reasons why people claim to find themselves or happiness abroad. This also doesn’t mean you need to pack your bag and book a plane ticket to find it either. It is a mindset and a choice to find beauty in the vastness of the world and to feel happiness. The more you think and feel happiness the more comes your way. Again, its all a perception. Become real with yourself and become curious with the richness of this world. I know you have felt it before and maybe your path has taken a bit of a detour but you can feel it again.


It begins with YOU
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xx,

 

B.

3 Ways to Ease the Shifts of this Chapter (2016)

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I have been seeing a lot of posts regarding this year and how it has been the most challenging year of many people lives; and I definitely can toast to that. There has been a lot that has happened and the magnitude of it wasn’t always pleasant but… life never gives you anything you aren’t able to handle. We are meant to experience everything we have this far. It is here for a reason and you don’t always need to know ‘the why’. With everything that has happened this year I choose to handle it with love and compassion. If you are experiencing a rough year or a year that has really uprooted a lot of old patterns; here are three ways to give yourself some freedom and light from the situation.

 

  1. Take extra time everyday to slow down. REALLY SLOW DOWN. I don’t mean come home early and watch an extra show or two. I literally mean put on the brakes. Free your schedule, have an extra long bath, read a little longer, cook food with no rush, and sit in stillness. Our nervous system will respond so well to slowing down. As we move through different experiences they can become stressful on the system and this only causes us to feel even more bogged down and tired.
  2. Give yourself some gratitude. What have you loved harder? What moments of laughter have you had? When was the last time you did feel grounded and happy? Take those moments and blow them up in your mind. Let them shine there and give yourself some gratitude. Life may have been chaotic but there was still beauty around. Even the ‘darkness’ is going to transcend into beauty if you allow it too. Yes, life may have felt the hardest this year. But it really is preparing you for all of the incredible experiences you are about to experience. So, right here. Right now. Tell yourself, “the good times this year out-weigh the chaos.”. Give yourself a huge freaking hug. You made it. No matter if you disagree. You have a heartbeat and your breath.
  1. STOP listening to the small voice in your head. “why me?” “I don’t deserve this.” “I do deserve this” “I can’t handle anymore.” “Pour me” “I feel so bad for myself.”….. The voice is there and it needs to quiet down. Your highest self does not run off this frequency. You are the light. We can start stories in our head about why it is happening or why things aren’t happening. But at the end of the day this voice isn’t going to serve you. Catch yourself when this voice comes into your head. Allow it to be there but let those thoughts go. Don’t get hung up on them. They create illusions and more chaos that will only make us feel even worse. Next time a little thought comes into your mind that you know doesn’t bring joy and happiness. Leave it. Fill your room and mirrors with affirmations that are the opposite. These affirmations hold a greater frequency that will bring more ease and peace into your day. Stare at yourself and say them outloud. No matter how silly or odd you feel. DO IT! soon enough you will feel these words in your body.

 

Truly life is BEAUTIFUL no matter how painful it may seem. This ‘pain’ can be transformed into something much lighter if we learn to handle it in a different way. As we learn to slow down, feel more gratitude, and stop listening to the small voice we see and feel the bigger picture. We connect to our deepest self as we learn to grow from what life gives us. It may not feel great in the moment but it ”too shall pass”. As cliche as that may sound; it really does with time.

 

xxx,

 

B.

 

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